Am I blaming others for my discomfort? So often we
think "You make me..." Taking responsibility for
our discomfort is the beginning of taking contol of
our lives. Many times we want others to change.
In reality, we are unable to control others.
The only person I can control is myself.
I can change my behaviors, my thoughts and my
beliefs. Therefore, I must look to myself rather
than others, no matter how close they are to me.
Here are some questions I can ask myself:
1. Am I using "I feel.." statements when speaking?
"I feel" statements means I take responsibility for
2. Are "Should" and "you" words in my statements
towards the others? "Should" is an absolute truth
or rule word. "You" creates a roadblock. Change
"Should" to "Prefer."
3. Do I take care of myself by eating well, getting
enough sleep and exercise? Am I adding
healthy fun, hobbies and journaling?
4. Are my relationships healthy and
5. Am I practicing a spritual and balanced life?
If you find that you are often
angry, frustrated, overwhelmed,
worried or sad, you may be
struggling with depression or
anxiety and may require
additional support from a